It’s quiet, you can almost hear the thoughts in the room. It’s strange how something that’s supposed to feel close can suddenly feel… fragile. And sometimes, it’s not the silence that ruins it, it’s the words. The little ones you don’t think matter, until they do. Until the air changes and you both stop breathing the same way.
1. When You Bring Someone Else Into The Room
You think you’re being honest. Or casual. But the second you say their name, even accidentally, it’s like a ghost shows up.And now you’re not two people anymore. You’re three.
And no one really knows where to look. You can say sorry, but some words just stay.
2. When You Hide Behind a Joke
You laugh because you’re nervous. You make light of it, say something dumb,
because being real feels heavier than you’re ready for. But sometimes, the joke lands wrong.
It cuts through the warmth. And the other person just looks at you, like they’re not sure if you’re really there or just pretending to be.
3. When You Say “This Feels Weird”
Maybe it does. You’re not used to being that close, to someone knowing what your silence sounds like. But saying it out loud kills the moment. It tells the other person you’re uncomfortable with them, even when that’s not what you meant. Sometimes the connection is weird. Because real closeness isn’t something you control.
4. When You Apologise For Existing
You whisper “sorry” for no reason. For your body, your silence, your nerves, whatever.
And they tell you it’s fine, but you can feel the shift. It’s like the moment starts carrying your guilt instead of your warmth. To be honest, the hardest thing sometimes is believing you don’t have to apologise to be loved.
5. When You Sound Like You’re Somewhere Else
It’s that tone, Flat. Tired. Far away. Like you’re halfway in your head and halfway pretending to care, And maybe you don’t mean it like that, but they can feel it.
People always feel it. You can fake words, but you can’t fake energy.
Not in moments like that.
6. When You Say Things You Don’t Mean
It’s easy to say something soft when the lights are low. Words come out faster when you’re vulnerable or scared to lose the moment. But later, they replay it. They remember it like it meant everything. And when they realise it didn’t, something in them closes, for good. So yeah, sometimes silence is safer than comfort that isn’t real.
7. When You Pull Away To Protect Yourself
You feel something real forming, and suddenly, you panic. You say something sharp,
Something that makes it feel lighter, colder, like it never mattered.
But the truth? You said it because it mattered too much. Because you were starting to feel something you didn’t plan for. And now you’re both pretending not to notice what just broke.Maybe that’s the thing about closeness. It’s not the silence that ruins it.
It’s the words that come from fear instead of feeling. And sometimes, the best thing you can say… is nothing at all.
