Adeola Kingsley-James has highlighted the emotional demands of blended family life, emphasising that unresolved trauma makes parenting and step-parenting even more difficult.
Speaking to Nedu Wazobia on The Clarity Zone monitored by MyNewsGh, she said many people enter family structures with unhealed wounds that later influence their behaviour.
“These people calling you all the time make you feel needed, and make them feel special,” she said. “That’s why they’re doing what they’re doing. They are also walking traumas. I call them functioning traumatists.”
Adeola recounted a personal experience uncovered during therapy, explaining how childhood expectations can shape adult struggles.
“I went back to my mother’s womb in my hypnotherapy session,” she said. “My mother wanted me to be a boy. I promise you.”
She stressed that children also have emotional rights of their own. “The child has the right to feel what they feel,” she explained. “Your job is to first be whole. Hurt people hurt people.”
Adeola argued that emotional self-awareness is crucial before entering any blended arrangement.
“Before you decide, let someone tell you all the things that will come with it,” she said, noting that proper guidance prevents unnecessary conflict.
