Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) practitioner and psychologist, Mrs Perfect Kumah-Oduro widely known as Counsellor Perfect, has urged couples to embrace patience and an understanding of marriage, noting that no relationship can ever be 100 percent perfect.
Speaking on Joy Prime’s Let’s Talk show while discussing the topic, “My husband provides and shows up practically, but I don’t feel seen,” she explained that marriage is a continuous journey of growth rather than a destination of completeness.
According to her, partners should understand that it takes time for spouses to fully know each other and to learn how to express love in ways that truly resonate.
“There will come a time when he will understand her better, and she will also learn to appreciate him more. Nothing in life is perfect, including marriage,” she said.
Counsellor Perfect emphasised that compromise is unavoidable, adding that there are certain expectations spouses may have to let go of for the sake of harmony.
She noted that some people are not raised or trained to express affection in particular ways. For instance, “a partner may not believe in giving gifts simply because it was not part of their upbringing.”
In such situations, she advised couples to reflect on their backgrounds and then communicate strategically and respectfully with their partners, rather than making assumptions or accusations.
She further explained that because partners come from different homes and life experiences, conflicts are inevitable. However, she stressed that with conscious and deliberate efforts, couples can introduce small but meaningful changes that, over time, can transform their relationships.
“These intentional actions can gradually bring peace, stability, and sanity into our homes,” she added.
