Teju Babyface has warned that confessions often do more harm than good.
Speaking in a viral video, Teju argued that when men or women admit to cheating, it is rarely about honesty but rather self-serving motives.
“The first question you must ask yourself is this, what exactly are you trying to achieve with your confession?” the media personality began.
“This confessing that you want to go and do, what is the objective?
“Ask yourself that question because people who confess manage to convince themselves that they are trying to come clean, that they are being honest.
But the reality, the truth is you are not being honest. No, you are being manipulative.”
Teju went further to unpack his reasoning, stressing that guilt, not integrity, usually drives people to reveal infidelity.
“If honesty were your greatest strength, then you would at least be honest with yourself as to why you want to confess.
“Because the reason you want to confess is not because you are honest. The reason is because the weight of guilt, guilty conscience is killing you and you are looking to share it with somebody.”
He explained that such confessions only serve the unfaithful partner while devastating the betrayed spouse.
“You are looking for somebody else to bear the burden with you.
“Or alternatively, you’re trying consciously or subconsciously to sabotage your relationship and you are hoping that by telling them, by telling your wife or your husband, your spouse, your partner, your significant other, you are hoping they will do exactly what most people do, that they will go up in flames and torpedo and grenade and scatter the relationship. That’s what you’re hoping.”
In his view, cheating confessions ultimately bring no value to the other partner.
“In other words, there is no benefit to your spouse when you confess. All the benefit is yours,” he concluded.
