Pastor Bisi Adewale has shared some challenging some of the most common misconceptions about marriage in Christian circles.
He started by tackling the controversial idea of involving a “third party” in marital conflicts.
“People are talking about ‘no third party,’ but there’s a distinction we need to make,” Pastor Bisi explained on the Honest Bunch podcast monitored by MyNewsGh.
“A third party is not the same as a help party. A help party is someone unbiased, someone who can guide both partners fairly, someone who can scold you when needed. That’s not interference; that’s support.”
He also emphasized that the first two parties in a marriage are the husband and the wife.
“We often focus on prayer, fasting, and spiritual exercises, but neglect sexuality. Spirituality is vital, yes, but it won’t sustain a marriage if sexual intimacy is ignored,” he said.
“You may hear from the Holy Spirit, but if you don’t know how to manage a household or handle conflicts, your marriage can still fail,” he added.
He also cautioned against strict fasting rules that compromise marital intimacy. “Your fasting is to put you in the right state for God, not to punish your spouse or make you miss intimacy. It’s about balance,” he said.
For Pastor Bisi, the modern marriage requires unlearning outdated cultural expectations and embracing practical wisdom.
“If culture says the woman must do everything while the man relaxes, that might have worked decades ago. Today, couples must learn to share responsibilities, understand each other’s backgrounds, and respect each other’s contributions.”
